Coping With a New Disability

I recently had a couple weeks stay in Stoke Mandeville, the National spinal injuries centre in Aylesbury, this was just for checkups and a few tests that I’ve neglected to have done over the years. I mixed with many newly injured patients while there and all the memories of the fears and worries about what life will hold and how I would cope on the outside world came flooding back. I guess I am a hardened wheelchair user after 35+ years but I couldn’t help but feel for everyone of them. 

The changes which have to be dealt with after becoming disabled are a whole mixture of physical, psychological and of course financial ones, all have to be dealt with when the time is right. 

Many moons ago when I had a motorcycle accident that put me in a wheelchair there was no such thing as making a claim for compensation if the injury was caused by the negligence of another party, at least if there was I wasn’t aware of it and it most certainly wasn’t publicised the way it is today. I would seriously recommend anybody that thinks their injury was due to the actions of somebody else to check out the information on steps to take or advice from professional and competent injury solicitors. 

Any money received will I assure you come in very helpful and almost vital in the years to come as well as make up for any earnings lost through your injury, both now and in the future, as well as covering expenses such as medical bills and any specialist equipment required. Money can never truly make up for the shock and anguish brought about by no longer being fully able bodied, it can deal with the simpler practicalities, removing worries about your future finances and leaving you free to concentrate on adjusting to your changed circumstances and generally coping with life. 

Everybody deals with becoming disabled in a different way, many people put on a mask and will laugh and joke but won’t really feel the full extent of what has happened to them until they are outside in the big bad world, others go into a deep depression and need a great deal of reassurance, guidance and almost mothering assistance until they are able to cope but some surprisingly just take the bull by the horns and see “okay this is happened now I need to get on with life” A great approach if you are that type of person. 

Never be afraid to seek information, the Internet is now a wonderful place and offers you all the guidance, advice, information and assistance that you need.

In practical terms it’s vital that you get as much help as possible to enable you to lead an independent life in your own home, the best place to start is the original hospital where you received your treatment and any rehabilitation, they will have heard your questions many times and I can assure you fully understand your fears. I’m guessing it sounds corny but the old saying of “a trouble shared is a trouble halved” really is a true one.


  1. So true! Without the support of my friends and partner, I would have lost my marbles. It's so mentally draining sometimes - having the support of those around you is vital. Very nicely said. :-)

    Friday @ dignifiedandproud.blogspot.co.uk

  2. Some very valuable and wise words, thanks for sharing. :)

  3. Hello I'm Susan from Pennsylvania- USA. I always wondered what was "worse" having a disability from birth or later in life. There are pros and cons to both side, however, I only know one side since I can only be one person. Thanks for sharing and perhaps my blog will be helpful. www.wheelingthroughyourlife.blogspot.com. I'd love to learn more about the situation in England for people with physical challenges.